quilt for kelly

Facebook Event: HERE

The quilting community is welcoming and supporting. Since joining a local one last September, I have received support and encouragement. Recently on FB an event has been created to provide an impoverished quilter with a new one for herself.

I have decided to learn to machine applique just for this. The first two were easily created:




However, I wanted to make a block with the recipient’s first initial “K”. First I sketched it during my morning at the office on a Post-It note. Then I drew it onto parchment paper.


I do not have a light box so I improvised with the clear lid of my thread sorter and the LED lights that hang on the wall of my den (welcome to apartment living).


I turned the parchment upside down and traced it onto my Heat n Bond Lite iron-on. I’m done for the evening after trimming out the pieces. Tomorrow I will iron the bits onto the fabric and then start ironing the pieces onto the background fabric.


Torrance Fabric Sale


In Old Town Torrance, CA

Starting July 6, 2017:
60% OFF from marked price for cut cloth in various length.
$1 each for Fat Quarter
$5 each for Half Yard cut fabric

30% OFF Japanese fabrics
50% OFF American, European and select Japanese fabrics, fabrics on a roll, notions, patterns and books and other merchandise in stock.

What to say

Thursdays are my busiest days. It doesn’t change whether it was 7 years ago working in senior day facilities, running substance abuse groups for teens, or the past 6 years in school based services. Now, working in an office with scheduled clients, a hair-breadth away from private practice, it’s the same deal.

Clients cancel 1-24 hours in advance, don’t show up at all, or reschedule early in the week. Mondays are notorious for being empty. In the therapeutic line of work, empty is boring. I plan sessions for my clients, questions to push them towards progress. I create home practice to be completed between sessions and built upon the following session.

On the internet you can go to any search engine of choice an type in “therapy client no show” and get advice. Many of the results present advice for ffs clients (fee for service). What about medi-medi clients who have no co-pay?

I make a phone call about 15 minutes into the missed session. I offer them an opportunity to reschedule the following week. I ask about problems arranging transportation and make recommendations. If I end up leaving a message, it’s “Hi XYZ, it’s Megan from [insert employer here]. You missed your scheduled session with me today at 9 A.M.. You can call me back at 123-456-7890 to schedule a different time.”

At my previous employer we worked with Medi-Cal clients alone. This enabled us to discuss the 3 consecutive no-show policy held by Medi-Cal which resulted in termination of services if they did not respond to a mailed letter reviewing the policy and their endangered client status. At my current employer I review the policy at the initial session, and the policies are posted at the receptionist.

What about Medi-Medi clients who do not have a co-pay?

Bl. Pier Frassati

I have read the story of the miracle cure of a young man who saw Pier Frassati during a coma. I knew of his love for the poor, and how he would go hiking and other sportly activities.

On a lark, I looked up quotations. He has a lot to say of suffering and serving. He would attend Mass daily, and frequently go with less and give the difference between a 1st class train ticket and a 3rd class to the poor, or extra bread and other foodstuffs. I have long looked to St. Dr. Giuseppe Moscati for inspiration and support in my work with the poor, and the suffering that occurs on both ends.

“You ask me whether I am in good spirits. How could I not be, so long as my trust in God gives me strength. We must always be cheerful. Sadness should be banished from all Christian souls. For suffering is a far different thing from sadness, which is the worst disease of all. It is almost always caused by lack of Faith. But the purpose for which we have been created shows us the path along which we should go, perhaps strewn with many thorns, but not a sad path. Even in the midst of intense suffering it is one of joy.”

It’s not that we should not suffer. We are called to follow Christ, which inevitably leads to Calvary. Not only in the sense that He took Death for us, but that we also need to suffer. It’s part of salvation. We are called to suffer. Frassati makes an interesting point, that we are to suffer with spiritual joy, not sadness. I cannot pretend to say that this nuance is easy to master. Do you rejoice when you have a headache or a loved one is in the hospital? I do not rejoice when my clients have been hospitalized for psychosis, manic episodes, or suicidal behavior. But, isn’t there a silver lining in that action (the hospitalization) that I and they can capitalize on: they are still alive. Is that not joy?

Suffering that is nourished by the flame of faith becomes something beautiful, because it tempers the soul to deal with suffering.

It is not suffering for the sake of suffering. Frassati is not suggesting you deliberately stub your toe, or choose to put a gravel pebble in your shoe and walk around all day. Even St. Paul speaks of adding to the suffering of Christ Jesus. Not because it is lacking, but because we are called to participate in Calvary. We are called to suffer with and for our Lord. We are told to walk with Him in pain and suffering. The Bride walks toward the Groom: that altar of sacrifice, that sepulchre, that 4-post marriage bed. Think of the aisle towards Christ at Mass as your little Calvary every Sunday and Holy Day of Obligation.

Faith grants meaning to what would otherwise be empty. “Offer it up”. We hear it said frequently. That doesn’t mean: walk around all day grumbling about your headache, scowling, and generally being a dick. Offer it up, means to avoid pain killers if you can handle the pain and still be charitable. If not, take the medication. Tell Jesus, or Momma Mary, or your favorite saint, or Guardian Angel (or all 4) to present it to God as a sacrifice for ______________ : sinners, your own sins, those who die today, for the repose of the souls in purgatory, or &c. Make it a prayer.

Faith transforms suffering from mindless, unending pain, to shouldering a burden for a brother.

I like knowing that I have a new saint-friend who can inspire me beyond the hiking trips and daily Mass attendance, but also in looking at how to suffer with the impoverish in a spiritual manner.





on the feast of Bl Pier Frassati

By drawing closer to the poor, little by little we become their confidants and counselors in the worst moments of this earthly pilgrimage. We can give them the comforting words of faith and often we succeed, not by our own merit, in putting on the right road people who have strayed without meaning to.