Not isolated


I’m drafting a post, but am still thinking about it; likely to be pondering what I want to say for a while. However, one of the reasons I can’t think on the topic for long is because I’ve got barriers. These barriers come from daily life, specifically the content of my daily life. Let me split the hair a bit more: work life.


I try not to talk about work online, people start clamoring for information, resources and “oh, hey can you do therapy on the internet with me…for free?” Uh, let me put this simply:  NO. Why? Because when I work 12 hours a day driving around to different schools, homes, and other places (ever done therapy in a dentist waiting room? Or Burger King?).


However, when some events are brought into the realm of social media and infotainment such as very public disclosure of childhood sexual abuse of Michael Egan. It’s very timely considering I’ve had several clients and parents disclose their own experiences of sexual abuse, rape, assault, and molestation in the past week or two. What better way to answer all their persistent questions of “why didn’t he/she tell me?” That a celebrity’s mother explains the fear, threats, and conflicting emotions. And it rips off the gag, the message of “don’t talk about it” and “it’s shameful”. Your daughter making a choice to sell herself on the corner for drugs or food is shameful. Your son or daughter enduring abuse from trusted adults (aunts/uncles, parents, neighbors, teachers, friends, siblings, grandparents etc) is uncomfortable, embarrassing, confusing, angering, saddening, depressive, anxiety-provoking, scary, upsetting, distracting, etc. I can normalize PTSD, re-living and avoidance, flashbacks and nightmares all day long, but there’s something about hearing about it on television, that the “untouchable” people in Hollywood are suddenly very touchable. I mean that in more than one way, how many ways can you take it? (oh, the puns are coming out now … oy vey this means one thing)


I’m going to bed now.