Modern dating has turned intimacy on it’s head. It is now considered too intimate and vulnerable to converse, and casual to throw off clothes and fornicate with a stranger you’ve known for maybe 2 hours, tops.
I struggle with this. I have 9 years of training me in having the most intimate conversations on the planet about yourself, your family, your past, and how this has impacted your ability to live in the present moment. I speak as a therapist, clearly. However, my training is difficult to turn off when it comes to being openly vulnerable and emotional. I openly admit things that others are ashamed of (i.e. family secrets).
I am not ashamed of decisions I never made.
However, society wants us to be. Society’s post-Christian culture states it is more vulnerable to speak in frank tones or with honest phrases about our brokenness; than it is to strip naked and have sex on a first date. A woman’s genitalia is not recompense for a $3.75 Americano coffee. There’s nothing you can do for a woman to “gain access”; and likewise goes for women aiming for a man’s trouser zipper. Men have work to do. Manhood and what it means to be a gentleman has been
redefined obliterated. Women, I fear, are even worse off. We’ve done it to ourselves. We demand “rights” in the streets, marching, shouting. We have contorted until we are no longer recognizable as women, let alone deserved of being termed “lady-like”.